"Written for Girls" Part 13——Part 4 What should you do 2. What should you do when your husband works too much?

Part 4 What should you do?

2 What to do when your husband is overworked

When your husband becomes deaf, dumb, and blind to anything other than work, you are his five senses.

A few months ago, an old friend stopped by to see us. He looked tired and unhappy. “I didn’t know what to do,” he told us. “For six months, I had been working overtime to open a branch of our company. I came home late every night. I waited until I finished this difficult task. work, I can go home at a normal time. But Helen was very unhappy that I didn't come home for dinner and that we couldn't go shopping together, which also made me lose energy. Establishing this new company is very important to us. Both were important, but there was no way I could make her understand that. I was so worried about her that I could hardly focus on my job."

The poor friend was being pressured from both sides, no wonder he was so exhausted.

His question reminded me of a time when my husband was rushing to write a book. I hardly know which one of us had the harder time during that period. Although he was writing at home, I rarely saw him. He locked himself in his study and wrote until midnight - like this every night.

We cannot attend social events together. Because he has to catch up, we can't have fun together or go anywhere. Fortunately, our friends are very understanding.

I was lonely during that time, but I was too busy making sure Dale was eating properly, resting, and getting some fresh air. I also joined some clubs, visited our friends frequently, and developed more interests of my own.

It's incredible that his book was finished and we could live our old life together again.

Certain periods of unusual toil are certainly not as enjoyable for wives as picnics, although they may be necessary or fascinating for their husbands. As wives, we should stand next to him, just like a nurse, bodyguard and spiritual support, quietly gritting our teeth and looking forward to the day when we can live a normal life again. The rewards of success inspire our husbands, making them deaf, dumb, and blind to anything other than the job at hand. But we don’t feel that reward.

What should we do to adapt ourselves to these periodic periods of extra work? How can we help our husbands get through these days as easily as possible?

Here are some ideas that have helped me. Hope it works for others too.

1. The food you prepare for him should fit in with his extra hard work schedule.

Give him something to eat often, but don't give him too much at one time. If he has to rush through dinner and is working late, try to have an easy-to-digest snack ready for him when he comes home exhausted. Baked apples, juice, custard, salad, celery, and carrots—these are small amounts that are easy to digest and contain the vitamins he needs. If he eats dinner at home, don't force him to eat a lot of hard-to-digest food before a long night's work. Read a book about nutrition, or talk to your doctor about preparing foods that will increase your stamina.

2. Arrange some entertainment plans for yourself instead of thinking about how wonderful the past days were all day long.

Learning how to make yourself relevant socially, without having to rely on your husband, can also make you a welcome guest. In many situations, you will become an unnecessary lady; you should avoid such inappropriate situations. At other gatherings you will be as popular as the sunshine in May.

Try doing something you didn't have time for before: visit a few galleries, go to a concert, do something for your church or political party, attend a self-study course, or some evening ministry school.

Such a plan will work to your advantage and save your husband from worrying about your loneliness.

3. Explain this situation to old friends, and they will understand why your husband has temporarily left the social circle.

Let them feel that you wholeheartedly support your husband and approve of what he does.

4. Let your husband know he has your support and interest.

This will make his job go more smoothly and keep you from leaving him.

5. Remind yourself that this is only a temporary phenomenon.

If you prove that you can easily accomplish these things, after this big project is completed, you will be able to live a sweet life like a second honeymoon.

(To be continued)