"Written to Girls" 14 - Part 5 You should avoid these traps 2. Don't interfere with his work

Many wives think they are responsible for their husbands' work problems, but their strategy is often to make their husbands unemployed rather than promoted.

At a recent dinner party, I sat next to the manager of the industrial relations department of one of the oldest companies in the United States. I asked him what wives could do to help their husbands succeed.

"I believe," the manager said, "that there are two most important things for a wife to help her husband succeed in his career. The first is to love him, and the second is to let him go on his own. A lovely The wife will bring her husband a pleasant and comfortable family life, and if she is smart enough to allow her husband to handle business without interference, his husband will be able to use his full ability and succeed, at least. Training will also help him achieve something.”

He goes on to explain that this non-interference policy applies directly to a wife's relationship with her husband's work, as well as a wife's relationship with her husband's business associates.

“Wives often interfere harshly with their husbands’ work,” he told me. Some wives like to advise, interfere, and influence their husbands, to object to the people they work with, or to complain about their husbands’ pay, hours, and responsibilities. Few other things are so serious about a wife who acts as an informal advisor to her husband in running his business.

Many brides have sweet dreams and want to cleverly help the prince of their dreams climb to the position of manager. They plan strategies; they drop hints and suggestions; they test, try, and cultivate friendships with their husbands' colleagues, often with the result that their husbands lose their jobs rather than get promoted.

I've seen this happen before. Once, the small company where I worked hired a manager. He is very smart and seems to be well suited for this position. What is puzzling is that his wife has been interfering with him since he took over the new job. Every morning, she went to the office with her husband, took down her husband's words, handed them over to the typist outside, and had to change her husband's entire work system. I'm not making this up - this is what really happened.

The working mood in the office is ruined. One girl resigned, and the others were waiting to see how the situation would change. Exactly three weeks after the new manager arrived, he was called into the main office and told politely but firmly that they could no longer keep him. He left - taking his wife with him. Is it too much? Maybe; but many people are fired for more minor reasons. Wife interference, even with the best of intentions, is a more dangerous thing than most people know.

A friend recently told me that one of the most highly regarded managers in his company was forced to resign after many years of service because his wife insisted on interfering with his business. She devised many secret schemes against several other managers in the company whom she considered rivals of her husband. She stirred up trouble among the managers' wives. She began systematically spreading rumors and attacking them. Unable to control her clandestine activities, her husband did the only thing he could: he quit a job in which he was quite proud.

If you are a girl who believes in the power behind the scenes, I will tell you an easier way to manipulate your husband. Listed below are ten ways you can follow the instructions to pull your husband's legs down and pull him off the ladder so that he can't climb up. If you follow these instructions, you won't make your husband lose his job, at least you will make him a nervous wreck.

1. Speak harshly to his female secretaries, especially those who are young and beautiful. Use the opportunity to mention her at any time, she is just a servant. Even though she doesn't see your husband as a gilded genius worth pursuing, that doesn't mean you should let her go. Losing a good female secretary is certainly a big blow to a career-minded man, but if she resigns, don't worry, your husband can still use a recording machine.

2. Call your husband several times a day, tell him about the difficulties you encounter in doing housework, ask him who he will have dinner with at noon, and don’t forget to give him a list of a lot of things and ask him to reply Bought it on the way home. On pay day, don't forget to go to the office to find him. His colleagues will soon discover who is the head of the family. And his attention to his work will be as low as the grasshopper in St. Vitus's Dance.

3. Create some friction with his colleague’s wife. This situation will never end because none of those ladies are good people. You can spread some interesting gossip about what your boss once said about her husband and what your husband thinks about her husband. Before long, the entire office will be divided into factions, and your goal will be accomplished.

4. Tell him that he has too much work, too little pay, and that no one in the office values him. It won't be long before he begins to believe you. And his work will become what you say it will be. Then he will look for a job that suits him better.

5. Keep telling him how he should improve his work, increase sales and flatter his boss. Act like a general manager sitting in a rocking chair. After all, he is just doing business in the office, you are the real strategist and planner.

6. Hold lavish dances, spend a lot of money, and live a life that exceeds your income, as if your husband has succeeded. You won't be able to fool anyone, but you will have a lot of fun as long as you keep doing it.

7. Organize your own secret police program in your home to investigate long-term problems between your husband and his female patrons, office assistants, and co-worker wives. It makes no sense to you that the ladies have to stay because of their work, and the gentlemen can only work in the men's room in order to avoid interacting with them too much. You have long known that those girls are all wild women who like to seduce men.

8. Whenever you have the opportunity to flirt with your husband's boss, try to use your feminine charm. If your boss doesn't intend to fire your husband after your efforts, the boss's wife will also find a new boss for your husband so that you can try your strategy again.

9. At the banquet held by the company, you might as well drink more wine. Show how interesting a person you are. Funny little things like the fun times your husband played on vacation and the time he went to bed wearing pajamas that looked like he was about to dance the polka will bring a lot of laughs to the party crowd. You will become the most popular person at the party - making fun of your husband, and you will have endless information to express interesting things about your husband.

10. Whenever your husband has to work overtime or is on a business trip, you cry and complain and nag to him. Let him know that you are the most important. You are most deserving of care and should be cared for, and anything else is expendable.

If you want to use top-notch tactics to ruin your husband's chances of leveling up, madam, just follow the ten rules above. As a result, he will lose his job and you will lose your husband.